Unmarried Men:
Preparing Now for Future Success.
As a single guy you might be tempted to think the video above is a joke
(and it is said tongue-in-cheek)
But the truth is I have never met a couple where the woman got more interested in sex
(for any substantial length of time) after they got married.
So men, if you are struggling with purity being single,
marriage isn't going to make it any easier.
You MUST get a grip on it now, or it will wreck your marriage.
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In Titus 2:6 There is only one thing the Lord asks of single men. Self-Control
Can you define self-control? Can you model it or demonstrate it?
Try this: Sit still in your chair, put your feet squarely on the floor. Then fold your hands, place them in your lap, close your mouth and stare at your hands. That is what self-control looks like.
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Jesus told His disciples one time the Spirit was willing but their flesh was weak. So young men, discipline your flesh (physical body and desires) to make them obedient to your spirit. One of the greatest ways to do this is through prayer and fasting, but it can take many other forms too.
* Start working out at the gym daily (regardless of how you feel)
* Get up early to read your Bible
* Turn off the TV and video games that don't glorify God
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Read the quote below slowly. This is something the Lord revealed to me.
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"It is easier to be pure in absolute abstinence than sexually restrained in moderation.
You must learn purity in absolute abstinence while you are single
or you will struggle sexually to live in the moderation marriage provides."
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There is no shortcut for this. Marriage does not cure your sexual dysfunction it only exasperates the issue you are covering with porn and masturbation.
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It is so hard to be single in today's culture. I talk with young men all the time who are bombarded with the sexuality of today's culture and the confusion that surrounds Biblical Purity.
My heart's desire is that you will live fully and contently in your singleness so that one day you will be able to completely enjoy your marriage in every way.
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If you struggle with sexual addiction there are a lot of resources and groups out there who can help. Do NOT wait, seek help now !!
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Counseling Resources (link)
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An idea for you as you wait for your future bride:
First, Go to the jewelry store and buy a nice necklace, just a plain gold something.
(Don't break the bank but buy something that you can afford and that you will still be proud of in 10 years.)
Next, place that small box somewhere you will see it regularly. For example: by you deodorant, or in your sock drawer.
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Every time you see it, take a minute to place your hand on it and say a quick prayer for the woman God is preparing for you one day.
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Then, on your wedding day give it to your bride. It will not only be a nice gift but also symbolic of all the prayers you have prayed for her as you waited for this day.
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Fasting for your Future Wife
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Fasting is a super under rated spiritual discipline in America today. We would rather throw a large amount of money in the offering plate than skip meals for any extended period of time.
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I would challenge you to start fasting 1 day a week for your wife. Eat an early supper on Sunday, and a later Supper on Monday (or you pick the day), and then use that time you would have spent eating, cooking, cleaning, etc. and sit in a place of solitude and just talk to your dad about your heart and desire for a godly wife someday. If you want to embark on a longer more serious fast, follow the link below for some guidelines and helps.
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